Thursday, January 12, 2012
Wednesday, January 11, 2012
Dear Ladies...
Here’s something to get our minds off the fuel subsidy removal. I took a poll last night from the guys on my bb list. Yes I did. This is not culled from a magazine neither is it done by celebrities who know what to say and when to say it but by regular, mostly working class guys.
Guess what I asked them. What kind of girl would you want to take home to mamma? And boy, did I get answers.
So please forget subsidy and “occupy” for a while and let’s go into what will not stop whether the strike is lifted or not – boy/girl relationship. *wink.
Top of the list is:
Miss God-fearing
All the guys on my list funny enough care about a God-fearing girl. According to them it has to show in every aspect of her life – from her attitude to her mode of dressing and conduct in public, from the way she talks to people both known and unknown. This quality apparently tops the chart on the kind of girl he wants to take home to mamma.
Miss Natural
Yes, a little make up could come in but he would prefer one that is comfortable in her skin and is not afraid to be with him when the foundation and mascara are gone. She should also be natural in behaviour and not pretend to be who she is not. So basically the Bible verse sums it up here “to thyself be true”. He will either accept you for who you are or move on if you are not what he wants. So ladies, please stop forming.
Miss Independent
“She got her own thing, that’s why I love her, miss independent…” Neyo sure knew what he was talking about. According to one of my friends, she does not have to work in Shell or GTB but she should have something on her hands however little as it shows a level of maturity and responsibility. So ladies, you have to be doing something or be willing to do something, be it a career path or the business path, just do something. She should also be able to manage the home front and not be afraid of house work.
Miss Trustworthy
While I wondered what exactly they meant by “trustworthy”, I got it spelled out. They do not want a miss “hot pants” who they cannot trust to keep her legs together. They also want someone they can trust with their finances, who will not splurge their money all the time on shopping sprees.
Miss Madonna and Mother Theresa
This mix is really very important from what I noticed. She has got to be prim and proper on the exterior but when the lights go out, the sexy Madonna appears who is also creative and open to new ideas if you know what I mean. Or as my friend put it, she should be a slave to her lusty desires. Uuh baiby! Don’t I love the sound of that?
Miss Cook
Remember the cliché - “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach?” Well, it is true for most guys even though some say they really do not mind but most guys stressed the importance of this trait. She has to not just cook the normal but be willing to try new things outside her comfort zone so that no matter where he finds himself, he always comes back home where he belongs.
Miss Good Listener
While we know we all have our “off” days, he wants you to be able to listen to him most of the time. Listen without judging (even though this is tres hard), listen without interrupting or nagging and generally be there especially when he is vulnerable.
Miss Good Mind/Intelligent
A guy wants a sharp, witty mind that will not bore him. He wants to be able to have a good conversation with you, preferably one that impacts on him, however little.
Miss Not too Available
Now, this is where most ladies get it all wrong. He does not want you to be too available neither does he want you to be too distant. He needs to be able to be thrilled somehow (go figure it out). He does not want you to be eager to move in with him especially if he has not asked you. (Why would you even move in with a guy who has not paid your dowry? But this is just me thinking aloud). So you should be able to hold his interest without being too available or too stand offish. Can’t lose on this one.
Miss Not Intimidated
Guys do not like ladies that are easily intimidated by them, yes! Even if he is your boyfriend. He wants to see you as an equal (at least the normal ones) and will appreciate it if you can fight back sometimes without being pushy or insultive while remaining submissive. (whew! Sounds like a handful even while typing but that is what he wants).
Funny enough, guys are not big on looks. If you do not have looks but have the character, then you are good.
Other points to note
He really is not interested in the club type that wear clothes that barely cover them up.
Good looks are okay but not priority
He wants a woman that is proud of him, however insignificant he is
He does not like girls that are into his money or what they can get
He wants you to be supportive
She should respect his mum who really is the first woman in his life
So maybe guys are not hard to figure out after all especially if they are past the “fun” stage. So ladies, if you already have these qualities, thumbs up to you. If you have a few grey areas, then you might want to consider and if you had a good read and it took your time off the fuel subsidy and the occupy Nigeria for a few minutes, holler at your girl.
Guess what I asked them. What kind of girl would you want to take home to mamma? And boy, did I get answers.
So please forget subsidy and “occupy” for a while and let’s go into what will not stop whether the strike is lifted or not – boy/girl relationship. *wink.
Top of the list is:
Miss God-fearing
All the guys on my list funny enough care about a God-fearing girl. According to them it has to show in every aspect of her life – from her attitude to her mode of dressing and conduct in public, from the way she talks to people both known and unknown. This quality apparently tops the chart on the kind of girl he wants to take home to mamma.
Miss Natural
Yes, a little make up could come in but he would prefer one that is comfortable in her skin and is not afraid to be with him when the foundation and mascara are gone. She should also be natural in behaviour and not pretend to be who she is not. So basically the Bible verse sums it up here “to thyself be true”. He will either accept you for who you are or move on if you are not what he wants. So ladies, please stop forming.
Miss Independent
“She got her own thing, that’s why I love her, miss independent…” Neyo sure knew what he was talking about. According to one of my friends, she does not have to work in Shell or GTB but she should have something on her hands however little as it shows a level of maturity and responsibility. So ladies, you have to be doing something or be willing to do something, be it a career path or the business path, just do something. She should also be able to manage the home front and not be afraid of house work.
Miss Trustworthy
While I wondered what exactly they meant by “trustworthy”, I got it spelled out. They do not want a miss “hot pants” who they cannot trust to keep her legs together. They also want someone they can trust with their finances, who will not splurge their money all the time on shopping sprees.
Miss Madonna and Mother Theresa
This mix is really very important from what I noticed. She has got to be prim and proper on the exterior but when the lights go out, the sexy Madonna appears who is also creative and open to new ideas if you know what I mean. Or as my friend put it, she should be a slave to her lusty desires. Uuh baiby! Don’t I love the sound of that?
Miss Cook
Remember the cliché - “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach?” Well, it is true for most guys even though some say they really do not mind but most guys stressed the importance of this trait. She has to not just cook the normal but be willing to try new things outside her comfort zone so that no matter where he finds himself, he always comes back home where he belongs.
Miss Good Listener
While we know we all have our “off” days, he wants you to be able to listen to him most of the time. Listen without judging (even though this is tres hard), listen without interrupting or nagging and generally be there especially when he is vulnerable.
Miss Good Mind/Intelligent
A guy wants a sharp, witty mind that will not bore him. He wants to be able to have a good conversation with you, preferably one that impacts on him, however little.
Miss Not too Available
Now, this is where most ladies get it all wrong. He does not want you to be too available neither does he want you to be too distant. He needs to be able to be thrilled somehow (go figure it out). He does not want you to be eager to move in with him especially if he has not asked you. (Why would you even move in with a guy who has not paid your dowry? But this is just me thinking aloud). So you should be able to hold his interest without being too available or too stand offish. Can’t lose on this one.
Miss Not Intimidated
Guys do not like ladies that are easily intimidated by them, yes! Even if he is your boyfriend. He wants to see you as an equal (at least the normal ones) and will appreciate it if you can fight back sometimes without being pushy or insultive while remaining submissive. (whew! Sounds like a handful even while typing but that is what he wants).
Funny enough, guys are not big on looks. If you do not have looks but have the character, then you are good.
Other points to note
He really is not interested in the club type that wear clothes that barely cover them up.
Good looks are okay but not priority
He wants a woman that is proud of him, however insignificant he is
He does not like girls that are into his money or what they can get
He wants you to be supportive
She should respect his mum who really is the first woman in his life
So maybe guys are not hard to figure out after all especially if they are past the “fun” stage. So ladies, if you already have these qualities, thumbs up to you. If you have a few grey areas, then you might want to consider and if you had a good read and it took your time off the fuel subsidy and the occupy Nigeria for a few minutes, holler at your girl.
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